The Friendship Tower from Jesus is not about a dating site! Different friends over the years have assumed when I mentioned the phrase “friendship tower” that I was talking about a Christian dating site. Maybe it is a Christian non-dating site – LOL!

If you haven’t seen my YouTube Video Friendship Tower from Jesus, (see my July 11th blog) please view that one first. Briefly however I will begin with a synopsis of the Friendship Tower but for more details you will have to listen to part one.

When I was about four years of age Jesus sent me visions and dreams. I was too young to understand them but since they reoccurred every few years until I was twenty one I began to understand them. In one of the reoccurring dreams the Lord spoke to me from inside a cloud that surrounded a huge throne. He showed me the stars of outer space and in front was large book. The Lord said that my name was written in this book and that if I served him through my life my name would not be blotted out. Shortly after that he said that I was not allowed to ask a woman to marry me, or ask a father for his daughter’s hand and He would arrange the marriage. He also said something about Him not allowing me to date or date very much.

During college I was in tears alone in my dorm room with the Lord, begging Him to let me date. I had lost weight, got buffed up at the gym and became well known on campus but the Lord kept me from dating. I had even been invited to a spin the bottle party and a mistletoe party in my dorm and both times as soon as I entered the room the girls all ran out. Both times the guys in my dorm had to promise the girls that I would not be participating. Only then did they agree to return.

I looked good at the time and had a reputation as a nice guy, which left the guys in my dorm quite puzzled by both incidents. (See the photo at the top of my blog for a picture of me in that dorm room that filled with the Lord’s cloud!)

When I had been alone with the Lord and crying my dorm room had become filled with a cloud. I had heard the Lord say, “You are reserved! Go to Genesis Chapter 24.” That is the story of how Abraham sent his servant to acquire a bride for his son Isaac.

When I had the three dimensional vision in 1989 the Lord reminded of this and said that the Book of Ruth would be the key. Jesus also reminded me in that vision that He would play the same role as an earthly father who helps a son find a wife in those cultures that practiced courtship or betrothal. That same year, in 1989, I had went through an event which the Lord had called an Ezekiel-Moriah test where I had to sacrifice an offered relationship from a lady in a home fellowship. As a part of that the Lord showed me a vision of a tower that He called a friendship tower. It was a tower that had rooms like a museum. I couldn’t exit the tower. He put different girls in the tower. Seemingly only one girl was unable to leave the tower.

For many years I resisted the Lord. Not that this is an excuse, but many Christian friends and acquaintances, over time, have continued to tell me emphatically that Jesus just does not do this. And then even after I started understanding what the Lord was doing I made another mistake. I made the friendship tower an idol. My second mistake was thinking that just because Jesus placed a friendship tower lady in the tower didn’t mean that she was to be my wife.

While I think that it was only the betrothal phase of the friendship tower experience that was to be a prophetic word picture of what is happening in the American church, the courtship phase of the tower was meant to build my character as far as discipline, obedience and unconditional love. That said, just as I seem to be a Quality Assurance guinea pig for Jesus concerning those who want the Lord to give them a last days “sanctuary” I think the Lord uses the friendship tower as a litmus test for whether or not certain servants are actually willing to rebel or enter a state of denial if they don’t like what He is asking them to do.

If you want more details on the word picture of betrothal and the prophetic word concerning the American Church please listen to FRIENDSHIP TOWER FROM JESUS 1 or read my books VISITATION and THE BABY ECHOLALIA OF CHRISTENDOM.

Suffice it to say, the Lord has arranged over the years for me to be invited into one betrothal and several family meetings concerning courtship. Twice when I was in a betrothal I had to decline offers. Before I am invited into a courtship the Lord talks to me in a dream. Usually there are two girls. The betrothal was an exception as the Lord had warned me that the betrothal invitation would take me by surprise and only one girl would be in the tower.

When the Lord shows me the girl or girls in the dream I am supposed to do nothing except wait for the sign. If the sign does not come in three weeks I am to forget about it, do the work of the kingdom, and wait for the Lord to put the next Miss Friendship Tower girl in the tower. If I get the sign, then once again I am to do nothing. I wait for the Lord – and there is no time limit – to arrange for me to spend time with the ladies. And many times it is merely interaction in a home fellowship or church. What may happen is that the Lord will show the family that he wants me to enter a courtship with their daughter. This flies in the face of both contemporary dating behavior and even betrothal and courtship rules. Jesus promised that he would act as an earthly father and I am under the rules that I cannot ask a father for his daughter’s hand or ask a girl to marry me because the Lord will arrange the marriage. I am not even to ask girls, including friendship tower girls, “out.” The Lord has to arrange it.

Early on, when the Lord arranged for a courtship, it was sometimes quite dramatic. In one case the Lord talked to a mother, a father and their daughter in a dream in the same night. I didn’t even know the family! The next time I came to church the pastor met me at the door and asked me to leave. Later the Lord brought confirmation as to what had happened through another member of the church who saw me in a store and explained the real story.

Two other times, and I am not sure about the exact details of how the Lord asked the family, but I was invited into a family conference. Both fathers basically said, in their own unique way, that even though it seemed as if God had asked them, that it could not have been God, therefore it was the devil. Both also added that concerning daughters that this is the one case where fathers may say an emphatic no to the Lord. Not only that, but these two fathers opined that they have the right according to scripture to demand one or more daughters never marry and serve their family until both parents die. According to the friendship tower rules, I am not allowed to defend myself. I may explain if allowed what the Lord has done in the past concerning the friendship tower, but I cannot argue the point. If I am to be defended, the Lord said that He is the one who will do it.

Anyway if the Lord asks a family to offer me a courtship basically one of four things happens:

1) I get the left foot of fellowship.
2) I am told I can stay in the church or home group but I am not supposed to interact with the girl. Don’t look! Don’t talk. Don’t touch!
3) I am invited into a family meeting to discuss entrance into a courtship.
4) The family basically says “no offense, but we can do better” and marries off the girl very quickly.

If I am invited into a courtship:

1) The girl says no.
2) The girl says yes, but one of the parents or other friends of the family says no.
3) After prayer the parent who was dissenting changes their mind and then someone else says no.

If a friendship tower girl is confirmed and she or the family asks me to enter into a courtship with her I cannot say no. Theoretically if the family doesn’t offer a courtship but allows me to spend time with her that is acceptable. From my end I have no claims and I have no rights. Also I should mention that the Lord is very fussy about physical contact. Hugs seemed to be fine or maybe a cheek kiss. Most of the time neither one was an option although I think the Lord allowed it if the girl or her family allowed it.

If a friendship tower girl says no to a courtship and later changes her mind and I am free, I cannot say no. There was one case where the family invited me into a courtship. The daughter said no. Years later I received a surprise email from the girl asking if I was still interested in entering the courtship. The family had relocated in that time and they flew in by jet. We met at a hotel in the town where I was living. When I had originally been invited into the courtship I had been earning about $28,000 yearly and when the father found out that such was no longer the case, he decided that I was not eligible at that time for entering into the courtship.

When that happens, the Lord is a gentleman, and the girl exits the tower. So except for the betrothal, I have never actually entered into a courtship. I think most of the friendship tower girls are now married.

Now in addition to the dream and the sign there is “the profile.” All of the friendship tower girls have had basically the same personality traits. They weren’t clones and with some there were minor variations in a few traits. For example, all of the girls were nice girls, but while most were “quiet” nice a few of them were miss congeniality nice.

Friendship Tower Girl personality traits:

1) Nice girls

2) Strong willed – very sensitive “don’t push me” button.

3) Highly intelligent. Very talented. They could do well at just about any task if they put their mind to it.

4) Dark side or wild side. One girl loved dark science fiction and was very sarcastic when depressed. Sometimes that trait came out as a pioneer mannerism. They were willing to be different. One girl was as quiet as a mouse at all times but could boldly witness at abortion clinics or gay parades.

5) Gift of helps, but that gift was easily squelched if they thought they were being forced, taken advantage of or received criticism.

6) Dramatic creative flair – often eccentric. Eccentric is my favorite FTG trait! Of course while they would admit they had a dramatic creative flair none would admit that they were eccentric!

7) They all loved Jesus, usually thought they were close to him, but were spiritually immature and not sensitive to His Spirit.

8)Most did not like to be touched or needed some type of warning first.

The real reason why there has been such conflict concerning the friendship tower girls is because while I have grown older, the age of the friendship tower girls stays pretty much the same. There were two exceptions with girls who were over thirty, but most of the time they range in age from 18 – 24. And I have no control over that but most people see me courting or even talking to someone of that age as a horrible sin. An abomination even! Another problem that arises is that from time to time there is a girl who fits the personality traits, but the Lord doesn’t confirm her. Unless the Lord talks to me in a dream and the sign is given within three weeks I can do nothing more than be around them in a group setting. Or there are ladies who feel they are more age appropriate and become offended because I won’t date them. Or friends who are trying to set me up get upset because I won’t agree with their plans to date a certain lady whom the Lord has not placed in the tower.

Even so, usually I don’t get to spend that much time with friendship tower girls either. I am allowed to interact with them but usually in a very limited way or only for a short time. And yet, while I am allowed by the Lord to spend time or do things like, go to a movie, out to lunch, or go shopping, with a friendship tower girl, because people see it as inappropriate, for the most part, I don’t get to do those things with them anyway.

About a year ago (July 2014) I was getting ready to leave the chalet in Winter, Wisconsin to move to Kennan, Wisconsin. I had a dream where the Lord showed me that He was going to put two new girls in the tower. I think it was July 2015, a year later, when the Lord spoke to me in a dream, showed me two girls and then I had to await the sign. I have three weeks to get the sign which is a picture of the girl. It can be just the girl or a group picture that contains the girl. I think it was the next day that I received the sign, multiple times, for both girls, from more than one person. And then I just had to wait. It seems that one is scared and that the other, who would like to be my friend, is not allowed to do so. Just because the Lord has chosen them and confirmed them, there is nothing I can do about it. Even if I knew their number or email or Facebook account I can’t ask them for the right to communicate with them, I must wait for the Lord to arrange it. Just because they are friendship tower girls I can’t expect that I will be allowed to court either of them. However, I am only allowed to marry a friendship tower girl. And then, I cannot ask her to marry me or ask her father (or her family.)

Today is Sunday, August 9th, 2015. Earlier in the week a brother and I prayed about the friendship tower issue. I prayed for a specific confirmation for the two friendship tower girls that a specific event would happen that would confirm they were in the tower with me. The confirmation came Saturday, August 8th, at 3:47  in the afternoon, but only for one lady. It would seem that the one who seemed afraid, had the opportunity but did not stay in the tower. Jesus is a gentlemen and this would not be the first time a lady who was afraid was not “forced” to stay in the tower. And that is the way it should be. May Jesus be forever blessed and glorified!